June, 2001

As sophisticated as we are in the 21st Century, many at the same time are quite naïve to think that if they follow a step-by-step formula, life would be simple, relationships would be smooth, and family would be happy. It would be a fair assessment to say it would work to perfection if we were all “programmed” with the same “computer chip” implanted in our mind, but reality disallows this fantasy. We are all different. This makes us unique.

With everyone’s uniqueness, it makes raising children that much more challenging, for there is no one “single, most effective” way to rear children. One way works for a child, but not necessarily another. We must learn the general principles and apply them according to the bend of each child. In spite of the differences, all has similar basic needs. Without going into details in psychology, we probably agree that apart from the basic needs of food and shelter, everyone needs to be loved and to feel a sense of belonging. When these basic needs are not met, a person could die physically and/or emotionally.

God established family in order to bring out the goodness of His love and provision. The responsibility lies squarely on the shoulders of the father. But needless to say, time has changed. We are living in a culture that witnesses the deterioration of core value in a healthy family. More than fifty percent of husband and wife fail to fulfill their marriage vow (Sad to say that Christian circle is not any lower). Children are no longer seen as Gifts from God. With this backdrop, we see people scrambling to find love and belonging apart from the family of origin. But we don’t need to continue with this undesirable trend. It is better late than never to return and use the manual from God—the Bible—to bring back healthy family life. One thing about our God is that He is dependable because He doesn’t change. His grace is always available to those who seek Him. The Bible says, “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.” (II Cor. 9:8)

Before I sign off, I would like to wish all the fathers a Happy Father’s Day. At the same time, encourage you to take the lead of going back on track to God by using His Manual, if you haven’t done so. Yes, parenting is a challenging job—but not a hopeless one. God’s grace is sufficient if we believe in Him. A final word for children: cooperate with your parents. They are trying their best to raise you to be godly and successful. Tell your father that you appreciate his hard work.

Pastor Larry